Frustration

I have to admit that parenting with a co-parent can be very frustrating.   I feel that I am talking to a wall sometimes.  I have tried to discuss consistency between homes and he acts like I am insane.  I just want us to be on the same page for our daughter.  I know that one day all the bitterness and resentment will fade into the back ground but for now I would like to know his opinion on how we raise our daughter.  He goes mute and it is very disturbing.  He is her father and I would like to hear his thoughts and I would like to know that we are doing the same things so that our daughter is not confused! I hope that he and I can establish some form of agreement soon!  Any ideas? Help!